Social media is the phenomenon of our time.
It has allowed each one of us to connect with new and old friends and companies like never before and it has become an integral part of our lives.
A couple of weeks ago, my wife took us both to Rome to celebrate my birthday. This is me in the photo, caught in the act by my wife, checking social media in the middle of one of the world’s great historical sites – the Colosseum in Rome. Is this not addictive behaviour?
There are pitfalls and dangers with social media as with any aspect of life and these are well documented. However, for the majority of people, social networks allow greater integration and sharing of our lives with friends and family than has ever been previously possible. From seeing family holiday photos to speaking to friends from years ago or miles away, connecting with people has never been easier. Suddenly the world is a much smaller place.
As a doctor, I have seen social media be a pathway to improving a patient’s health. One young patient had been quite social during their early years in school but had become more reclusive due to bullying. They rarely left the house and had no social interaction other than with their own family.
My patient’s one and only interest was sport. They continued to watch their favourite sport and over time, due to their enthusiasm, started a weekly iTunes podcast which proved quite successful. As part of the promotion for the podcast, they found they had to engage with social media including Instagram and Facebook. Slowly they found they were starting to talk to people online and, over the following months, started to form online friendships. This progressed into face to face friendships and attending sporting events together. From living their life alone in their bedroom to attending large sporting events with friends; the positive power of social networks is easy to see.
I think we engage with social media because as human beings we are inherently social animals. We like to keep up to date with what people are doing because by nature we are interested in what is happening in our surroundings.
Earlier this year, a study of 14-24 year olds found that Instagram was beneficial in terms of self-expression and self-indentity but that it could negatively impact their body image, sleep and lead to a fear of missing out.
Another study suggested that a Facebook addiction could be seen on brain scans of those reportedly affected – showing changes in the same parts of the brain that is affected by cocaine use.
Here are our top tips for spotting a social media addiction:
- As soon as you open your eyes in the morning you are already reaching for your phone to check out what has happened over night.
- You check in at the bus stop, the tube, your desk, at starbucks (with a selfie of you looking wistful with your coffee – or a boomerang of your coffee), you then update your status as you’re waiting for the work day to end and repeat the check in process on your way home before providing a running commentary in Instagram stories of you preparing your dinner.
- When someone tells you a joke you respond with lol instead of an actual laugh.
- You use the phrase “hashtag” in normal conversations. #fail.
So you’re worried you might be addicted, or you might need to take a step back from social media – how do you go about doing it? In truth in can be incredibly difficult to digitally detox your life.
- Start by trying to set some limits – like not checking your phone in bed or after a certain time at night, not taking your phone to the bathroom etc.
- Try turning off the push notifications – these little messengers of social activity constantly draw us back to our accounts.
- Try having a device amnesty in your house eg for a few hours in the evening or even for a whole day, and spend time instead with your family
Sure, there are some people who live and die by the number of likes a post or picture gets, but the rest of us just enjoy looking at photos of our friends as they have too much to drink and falling over don’t we?